A famous Zen master once said that the way to forget the self is just like a mother who is holding her baby and singing to her baby. Forgetting yourself could be cooking a dinner. You’re not thinking about all the aspects of who you are and the stories that come along with that. You’re just being sure that things are timed right so that when the parsley is chopped and the soup is ready, you can produce a wonderful meal. Just that feeling of flow. Or in painting or singing, just really feeling the flow of life around you. This is the way to forget the self.